Domestic vs. International

So we have had quite a few questions asking why International and not domestic. We thought about this for quite some time. Here are the cons of domestic that pushed us toward International:

1. If we wanted an infant there would be no real time line could be fast could be years. However when selected by a Birthmom (BM) we would pay her medical, clothing, food and housing if needed. Once the baby is born there is always the chance she could change her mind. If she decided to change her mind then we are out the money and have to start over. Unfortunately, there aren't any laws to protect the adoptive parents from scams. Although not all BM would be like this we felt the risk too great.

2. foster to adopt: This would be a great option as there are many children in foster care. However, a child isn't available for adoption until the parents legal rights are terminated. So when a cchild is placed with you, the birth parents have every opportunity to take classes and get themselves back together before the court terminates rights. So if they got their act together the child goes back to them. This after we, and you all (our family) have become attached to this child. We don't feel we were ready or able to handle this type of emotional roller coaster.

So the pros of International adoption have out wayed domestic.